Navigating the seas of change within relationships.

Relationship counseling for the transitions in life.

Online therapy across Washington state for adults and couples looking to explore and process the impacts of trauma, grief, loss, and other life changes.

You never expected to be here—or, at least, to feel this way.

  • Feeling like you and your spouse have become roommates instead of partners.

  • Trying to make sense of your loss and your partner seems to be pulling away when you want them to be closer.

  • Facing a major change, even an exciting one like marriage, a new family member, or retirement but afraid of how it might impact your relationships.

  • Feeling alone, even when you are with your partner.

  • Navigating a betrayal such as an affair.

Maybe you’re struggling with…

If only we could communicate…

I know you want to have the best relationships you can where you can be yourself and feel supported, accepted, loved, and experience intimacy. Events such as loss, trauma, and other life changes impact the dynamics of relationships and can leave you feeling like you and your loved ones are on completely different pages…or even planets.

Here’s what we’ll do together.

Communication is only one aspect…

Learning how to communicate with your loved ones is a great goal, and one we will work on. We will also identify the patterns in your relationships that are impacting everyone involved, what roles you are playing, how your past is showing up in the present, and how to communicate and listen to understand. We will work together to help you create relationships where everyone feels they are being heard and are safe to show up as their authentic selves, in good times and in challenging times.

Just as we go through stages of development as individuals, our relationships go through stages of development too and whenever there are changes in life or in relationship structures, those stages are impacted. Our work together will help you understand what stage you are at, how to build, or rebuild, a solid relational foundation, and help you feel like you are in partnership, not just companions (or even enemies).

Get in touch

Healthy relationships are possible

Click this link to set up a day and time for a free, confidential consultation. You will be sent a Zoom link the day before our scheduled consultation. In addition to telling me a bit more about yourself, please feel free to come with any questions you have for me. I look forward to speaking with you.

FAQs

Frequently asked questions

  • The short answer: No. That is not my role. If this is a possiblity you are exploring, I recommend you seek out the services of a discernment counselor who can guide you through making a decision like this.

  • We all play roles in our relationships, but no one person is to blame for all of a couple’s issues. The goal of relationship counseling is not to blame or shame one member, but to help each of you realize what roles you are playing and how you impact the patterns in your relationship (s).

    While at times focus may be on one member or another, ultimately the goal is for you each to take responsbility for your own behavior and attitudes. If you are seeking couples counseling with the goal of changing your partner and are not willing to take an honest look at yourself, this may not be the right option or time for you.

  • Every couple’s situation is different. While I cannot make promies of when you will see changes or guarentee specific results, I can tell you that couples who put in the time and work, both in sessions and between session, do make changes and leave counseling feeling they are closer, better able to communicate, and have the skills and tools they need to navigate challenges in the future.

Reconnect with your partner

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Reconnect with your partner —